Hey Babe...Remember When....?

Hey Babe...Remember When....

...You came over for dinner that first time, and I made you go for a walk with Me & Kc, even though it was like 100 degrees outside???  And you used the corny line, "your hands are so small," to size up my hand against your hand, so you could try and be smooth and hold my hand...?

 

...we used to text each other all day long? and If we were txting we were talking on the phone...?

 

This was 11 days into the current billing cycle....

...you took me 4-wheeling, and returned me missing some hair and looking like I got in a cat fight?

 

 

 

...you helped me move the first time, about a month after we started dating, and you swore you wouldn't move me again unless it was to marry me?  How'd that work out for you?  You moved me again 4 months later into the house that you moved into 3 months after that when we got back from our honeymoon.....

 

...When you told me that it's a good thing that I knew how to cook, because otherwise I would have gotten cooking lessons instead of a ring...I'm pretty sure that you were just kidding, but I'm still thankful that I can cook really well so I never had to find out!

 

...The first time you called me your girl?  It still gets me every time.

  

...I asked you to go home with me to meet my parents.  It was a pretty big deal since I hadn't brought a guy home since I was a teenager.  Little did we know when we booked your ticket that you would end up asking my dad to marry me!

 

 

... I surprised you with an impromptu date night.  Complete with Sushi, Wine & Mario Cart?  We had a lot of fun that night.  And I'm pretty sure I kicked your butt on some Mario Brother's...

 

 

...I woke up around midnight telling you to go take a shower, and you actually got up and took a shower, and then I was so confused when you got back into bed and was wet.  I still don't know what I was thinking, and I really can't figure out why you actually got up and did it.

 

...October 29th...

 

 

 

That's also the day that I bought my wedding dress...We definitely didn't do things the conventional way.  Most girls wait until after the have the ring to go dress shopping.  But, we did have the invitations, the date, and the church booked....

 

...the moment you saw me on our wedding day?  That moment was the best part of my day.  Those few moments before all the craziness started, when it was just you and I. 

 

 

 

 

 

...The first time you said "I love you."  And I made you wait a whole week before I said it back?  That was cruel, but I needed to make sure I meant it.

 

...Those looooong drives home that you used to make at 12 or 1 in the morning....?  Yea, I bet that sucked.  I would always make you txt me when you got home, even though I slept through the text anyway. 

 

...The first house we put an offer in on?  Remember that horrific light fixture, and the lobster tile in the kitchen?  Man, we thought that was our house.  We were so excited.  I still remember the address of it.  We were so disappointed when we didn't get it, but now we are SO glad that we didn't get it!

 

 

I can't wait to keep on making more memories with you.  You are my favorite.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

His biggest fan!

I'm writing from the recliner tonight, I'm so thankful it's Friday! The MR. had to work last Sunday, so we'll actually get to spend this weekend together! Even though we work together, our Sundays are sacred ground. It's my day to spend with my favorite person!

I don't know about y'all, but I hate being around other women that are negative about their man.  I always have such a hard time knowing what to say when they complain about them, or humiliate them in front of others. No one is perfect, I know there are times when my MR. Makes me mad or irritates the fire out of me, but he's my man, he's my person. For the 1 time he drives me nuts, there are 100 other times He's going out of his way to love me!  I don't want people to know about the 1 negative, bc that is what they will remember when I've long since moved on, I want them to know about the 100 other times when he loves and cherishes me! 

Let's turn over a new leaf, let's stop complaining about our men and start uplifting them! He's your man! He's your Hero, He's your person! Let's show our men that we are their biggest fan, their greatest support. Let's be their person! 

Reason #285 why I'm a terrible wife....

Confession:  I am a TERRIBLE wife.  Ok.  Maybe not Terrible.  But....The following post might put me in that category. 

 



My MR. has a slight case of OCD.  Like seriously.  It gets a little ridiculous at times.  His shirts in our closet are evenly spaced out.  Then they are coordinated by style & color.  The keys on his keychain are in a very specific order, all going the same direction.  I joked one time about making them go every other way, and I swear He about had a hernia.  He's slightly Neurotic.  But, he's Mine & I love him, so I deal with it...  I have my quirks too.... 

I on the other hand, am not an organized person.  I have what you call organized clutter.  I know where it's at in my disorganization.  It's a problem.  I know.  I Function.

But there is this ONE little issue that it a constant "battle" in our home.  The Knife Holder.  See.... the MR. thinks that the knives should be going all the same direction... If I'm the one taking care of dishes, I have them "organized" so that the ones on the left are facing in, and the ones on the right are facing in.  It drives the MR. BONKERS.....

So I was feeling quite rambunctious this morning...(A.K.A ANNOYING) and while we was being his OCD self taking care of the dishes, I walked over to the knives and made them go EVERY.OTHER.WAY.

 

I'm not stupid.  I know it looks TERRIBLE.  But, I think it's HYSTERICAL that He can't handle it.  He says He's not going to fix it.  Well I'M not going to fix it. 

 

I give him until the end of the day and they will be back to normal. 

 

Sure.  This may make me a terrible, annoying wife.  But--it gives us something to laugh about, so it's all good!

 

Stay Tuned to see how long it takes before they drive him CrAzY!  <------------ That drives his CrA-CrA too!  

Why we decided to wait.....

This poat has been a long time coming.  I was too nervous before writing it because I didn't want to offend anyone, and I didn't want people to feel like I was defending my position!)

 

I don't know about you,

But I think newborn babies are just the sweetest things ever.

There is nothing more heart melting than holding a precious, tiny, hours old baby.

They are soft,

They smell divine,

Your heart just literally melts.

I LOVE babies...

 





When my husband and I were dating/engaged we had the "child" talk.

When, How many, names, etc...

We decided to wait a few years before we started having children.

 

 

Don't get me wrong...

We both have a strong desire to have a baby.

We do not think that children are a burden.

We honestly believe that children are a blessing.

If we had gotten pregnant we would have been completely fine with it!

 

 

I know without a shadow of a doubt that the Mr. will make a GREAT dad,

whether it was 10 months after we got married,

or in another 2 years.

 

 

Holding this little guy gives us baby fever every time.

 

So you're probably thinking...

"So if babies aren't a burden, then why are you waiting.  You're contradicting yourself!"

 

And maybe I am.

Maybe we are being selfish.

But I wouldn't trade this past year with just "us" for anything.

 

 

 

The Mr. & I only dated for 4 months before we got engaged.

And by dated, I mean we had only known each other 4 months.

We met July 2nd,

went on our 1st date July 3rd.

I ignored him for the next 2 weeks,

I gave him another chance,

 We were engaged October 29th,

(but we started planning at the beginning of October),

And were married March 31st,

Almost 9 months to the DAY that we met.

 

We needed time to be just us.

We needed time to get to know each other.

When I think back even just a year ago to when we got married,

I realize how little we actually knew about each other.

Then when I think about when we got engaged

the word "CRAZY", & "INSANE" comes to mind.

I don't regret it.

The only thing we regret was not getting married sooner.

 

 

We were told in our marriage counseling that our plans and reasoning for waiting were selfish.

That if we were ready to get married,

ready to have sex,

then we were ready to have kids.

 

But the Mr. wasn't ready.

We weren't ready as a couple.

 

If we had gotten pregnant,

we would have been excited.

 

But that was not our plan.

We had just around $16,000 of debt to pay off.,

we had ZERO savings,

and we were living in my in-laws 900 sq ft house,

which was SUCH a blessing,

and it was perfect for 2 of us,

(but sometimes way to small!),

but would not have fit 3 of us!

And we weren't in a position to buy a house.

 

I truly believe in the sovereignty of God.

If God has blessed us with a child,

it would have been fine,

God would have provided us with everything we needed,

and we wouldn't have been able to imagine our lives without our baby.

 

We tried being on the pill,

but that only lasted a few months,

it was awful.

Going off the pill made me realize just how terrible the pill is for you.

I've been off it for 10 months and my cycle is just barely starting to return back to normal!

 

We then switched to the FAM method of birth control.

I would HIGHLY recommend this book.

 

 

I would recommend it whether you are trying or not trying to get pregnant,

or if you just wanted to learn more about your body.

It's really, really informative.

 

Believe me,

If God wanted us to have a baby,

we would have had one by now.

I'm fairly certain that there were several months when I didn't follow all the signs.

 

So what about now?

We have a house,

We are out of debt,

We have some savings...

 

Why are we still waiting?

 

I realize that there is never a good time to have a baby.

You will never be "ready".

And when you think you are ready

you find our that you really aren't.

 

 

 

Now we are mainly waiting for me to get healthy.

You might think I'm crazy.

I'm not "unhealthy",

I don't have some major illness that needs to  be cured.

But I am not at optimal health.

 

My sister had a heart attack when she had my niece.

She was a healthy 30 something woman,

and she had no health problems at all.

It's not really related to me,

the likelihood of it happening to me is very slim,

but it was scary enough that before I even put my body through pregnancy,

I want to be at the most optimal health I can be at.

And I'm here to tell you that I am not there yet.

I was getting there,

and then I completely fell of the band wagon.

My Dr. told me at my yearly that I needed to lose weight and get in shape before getting pregnant.

I have about 25 lbs to lose,

So basically I'm at the weight I should be at when I'm 10 months preggo.

 

We need to get in the habit of eating healthy.

We were doing that,

We were doing really good at it.

Now....not so much.

I don't want to get pregnant and THEN try and be healthy.

It won't happen.

Sonic is on may way to the bank people...

We are fairly certain that I have a thyroid problem (self diagnosed),

which causes me to have abnormally high cholesterol, among other things.

We had resolved most of the symptoms when I was experiencing,

but then it became not so important to me...

Stupid, I know!!!

So now, we are almost back to square 1 as far as that goes.

 

 

We have a few other issues that need to be resolved or have a solution for,

but that's another story for another day.

 

What's the point of this post?

I guess at the end of the day

I want to encourage you that it's your choice,

it's what is right for you and your family.

It's a decision that you and your spouse need to be making prayerfully before God.

Nobody needs to pressure you to have a baby.

It's really not anyone else's business!

 

My sister waited 5 years to have a baby,

they don't regret it,

in fact they encourage it,

And they are the  best parents that I know!

 

Another one of my friends from college got pregnant on their honeymoon,

they don't regret it,

and they encourage not waiting too!

 

 My Best friend waited 2 years,

And that was right for them!

 

I don't think any of them are wrong or selfish!

 

I'm not here to tell you to wait or not to wait.

I'm not here to defend our position in waiting.

I'm not one of those "feel good" people.

If it "feels right" then do it!

I think that thinking gets you into trouble and isn't biblical.

I think that there are very clear things in scripture that blow "feeling" good out of the water.

Sex Before Marriage,

 Drugs,

Getting Drunk,

Gluttony,

and the list goes on.

But I do believe that things like when to have a baby are a personal decision,

that isn't one that should be judged by other people.

That decision is between you, your husband, and God.

If you feel like God is leading you to have a baby,

then it would be wrong for you to actively try to prevent it!

 

Believe me.  If/when God chooses to bless you with a baby,

you're going to have a baby!

 

 

Marriage

When I was planning our wedding I really struggled with having scripture reading.

It was really important to me to have a ceremony that was centered around the gospel,

so logically you would have scripture reading.

BUT,

I didn't want someone to get up and read 1 Corinthians 13 and have it be the same boring old reading that every other person has at their wedding, that is read in a very monotone voice and nobody really pays attention to it anyway!

I wanted it to incorporate so much more of what Marriage and Love Biblically looks like!

So when I was sitting at work one day the perfect solution came to me!

My Aunt Kimmy is a phenomenal writer. (you can check her blog out here)

  She has a way with words that make them sing.

She puts words and phrases together in such a way that they move you to tears.

So I sent her a text asking her if I gave her a list of scripture verses

if she would put together a reading for me.

I had it planned so that the moment I hit the end of the aisle with my dad,

and as my saxophonist was still playing "The Wedding Song" by Kenny G,

to start my whole wedding ceremony off with this wonderful piece that my aunt put together.

Marriage

By: Kimberly Jenkins

Love is like an eternal river that flows straight from your heart, if your heart be filled with the love of Christ; the everlasting well of live.

As your pledge to one another, forever.  Forever may you pledge in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.  To pledge faithfulness as you both seek to acknowledge and grow in the Lord. (Colossians 3:12-27)

And as this man breaks reign from his Father and Mother to take hold and grow roots deep with his young wife, the two shall become one.  They shall grow into one. Therefore, what God has ordained let no man separate.  (Mark 10:6-9)

As the woman submits to the man, she submits as unto her Lord.  She is all giving, unselfishly loving and trusting in him completely.  (Ephesians 5:22)

And as the years find her aged with silver may her children arise and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praises her. (Proverbs 31:28)

And the man shall love her unselfishly, just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her.  He gives it all to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing of water through the word.  To be presented to her without blemish, stain or wrinkle.  To come to her holy and blameless, and as the years find him aged with silver may he find that he has always loved her just as he has loved himself.  (Ephesians 5:25-27)

Just as a young sapling came from a seed, the years move on, it grows strong and bears much fruit if the roots are reaching deep into the rich earth.  It’s branches stretch towards the heavens.  The leaves sing praises as they dance in the wind and the tree never forgets from whence it came.  

And as a family we pledge to pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wind and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge; that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.  (Ephesians 3:17)

Your marriage is like that of the young sapling.  The years will move on and your love will grow strong and bear much fruit if you nurture it and take care of it, if you plant yourselves into the rich soil of his living, breathing word.  And as you rise up to sing praises to the Son, may you never forget from whence you came.

I am the vine; you are the branches if a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.  (John 15:5)

 

  

I don't really remember much about our wedding at all,

After getting all of 2 hours of sleep,

(that was a long night of sleeplessness, I finally gave up at 4 am, got up, made myself 2-3 cups of coffee, and wrote both of my parents letters)

being completely exhausted & STARVING by 2:00,

And all the nerves and emotions that go with getting married,

 BUT, I'm pretty sure that if I did remember anything

This would one of my most favorite things about our wedding ceremony! 

It worked in perfectly 

(I remember this from the rehearsal)

with the score of The Wedding March,

and the man that sang "Long song" by Third day filled in at the last minute to read it,

and He such a dynamic speaker that it turned out better than I could have hoped!